21 things that I’ve learned in 21 years

It’s my birthday today. YAAAAY. I’m 21

Learn to say NO without  need to explain yourself. You don’t have to, and you don’t have to explain why.

Don’t please people if you feel uncomfortable.  No matter how hard you try, it will never be good enough for some.

Life throws you into adulting without warning. Don’t be afraid. But it isn’t simple, so be prepared.

YOU can accomplish whatever you desire. Don’t underestimate yourself, 99% of people around you are going to do that for you anyways.

Not everyone is going to like you. And you aren’t going to like everyone. So just be polite and fight through.

Stop waiting for the change, make it. You don’t like the way your life goes? Make a change.

Say thank you and please. Be grateful, for everything, even the bad stuff in your life. And learn to ask for help if you need it. It’s better to look stupid for 5 minutes, than to be stupid for a lifetime.

There is beauty everywhere, notice it and you will live a happy life.

Some people in your life are blessing and others, come as a lesson. Don’t regret meeting anyone.

It is better to keep silent when angry.

Stop caring about what people think of you. They don’t know you.

It’s okay to make mistakes, you will learn faster that way.

Let go of toxic people and feelings in your life. You choose what you want in your life. If there is someone who makes you feel miserable every time you meet them, let go. If you feel hate towards someone, let go. It only breaks you, not them.

Make the most of every moment. Take chances, leave your comfort zone, spend time doing what you love.

It’s never too late for anything. You can choose a different path in your life everyday, don’t be afraid to do it.

Be kind anyway. Be kind to them even if they are mean. Seriously, you will feel better, and nothing makes them look more stupid.

Don’t be negative. No matter what happens, stay positive and keep your head up.

It’s okay to get lost and have no idea what to do with your life anymore.

You don’t have to fight for something, if you’ve lost interest in winning. It’s okay.

Your life is how you make it. No one is going to make your life perfect, that’s your job. Negative brings more negatives. So smile, fight and never give up!

Fairy tales are possible, and highly probable. Everything can end well, and it will.


3 Years Of Amazing Relationship

Oh my, time really flies fast. I’ve been with my amazing boyfriend for 3 years already. 3 beautiful and magical years.



Therefore, I feel obligated to share with you, few things I’ve discovered over the years.

Be yourself. I know this takes time. But when the moment comes, there is nothing more beautiful. Show your dorky, creepy, crazy and childish side to your love. Be crazy together.

Listen and learn. Don’t listen to respond, don’t listen to listen, listen to learn. Whether your love has something worrying them, or they are just describing how boring their day was. If you really listen and care, your partner will feel more loved and important.

The best feeling is, when you know someone better, than they know themselves. When you know how to make them laugh in the toughest situations.

Communicate. I can’t emphasize this one enough. If there is a problem, talk. There is no way around it. You don’t like this or that? Talk. You feel happy. Tell it to your loved one. They will understand, or at least they will acknowledge. And even that is better than suffering right?

Enjoy your interests together. Find what you both love and enjoy it. We love to cook together. So we make sure to use every opportunity to enjoy some quality time in the kitchen. Oh, and of course we love to eat it afterwards. Hobbies are better with two.

Express love and affection with kisses, hugs and compliments. When we started dating, and I realized that this was going to be a life long story, I was worried. Everyday, we see couples on the streets (if they are even couples), not holding hands, not talking together, nothing. I was scared that the chemistry will wear off after a few years. It didn’t happen. And I promise you it won’t. You just have to work for it.

Spend a lot of time. None of the above is possible if you aren’t spending enough time together. Whenever we are separated, we text, constantly. We could say that we are constantly messaging to each other for 3 years. Without break.


Add some flowers into your life.

Recently, I’ve bought some flowers. And I must say, they are magnificent.

I think many of you already know this, but looking at flowers everyday is magical. It doesn’t only make you feel happy, but also shows you how beautiful this world is!

When I was living on my own, in my tiny apartment, I had no plants whatsoever. I didn’t really worry about it. But when I returned back to live with my parents, I realized that I really missed the nature. My mom really loves flowers, so she puts them everywhere she can. And I see why. My moods are better, and I appreciate even the smallest things lately.

So I’ve bought bonsai (Carmona Microphila) and orchid (Phalaenopsis multiflora).



This is not my particular bonsai. I have to replant him first, so I’ll show you later.

I hope I can keep them alive, because every plant I ever had, didn’t last more than a month. I keep forgetting about them. So, I will do my best this time.

What is your favorite flower (plant)? Do you have any?

There is no better way to enjoy spring, than with nature. So let’s all leave our computers and phones, and spend some time outside!

University drop out or University applicant?

I have decided to write more about my personal life as it is. Why not?

At least you’ll know me better, right?

So there are few things I have on mind recently.

1. Am I obsessed THAT MUCH?!

Okey, so I love tea, especially matcha. I used to drink matcha late a lot during winter. But, two to three visits to Starbucks a week is still manageable.

But Matcha frappe came out recently. The same Matcha frappe I drank in Japan. And yesterday I realized I had one every day since it came out. So I’m much more obsessed than it seemed.


And they now remember my name in Starbucks.

Cashier: “And what’s your name? Maria?”
2. University drop out or University applicant??

Just recently I came to a decision I don’t see myself as a Japanese studies graduate. Am I seriously able to sit behind a table all day, translating? Not really. I’m different, I’m creative. I can study languages in my free time anyways. So I dropped out of university.

I was always interested in design. It would make 10x higher income. I could actually CREATE stuff. I could be my own boss. Why shouldn’t I try. So, here I am, I applied. However, there is one problem, MATH. I hate math, my mind works differently than math. I don’t get it. I don’t want to get it.

So I came hope and shared this gracious idea with my lovely family. What were the reactions, you ask?

Mom: “Japan is the only thing, you were ever able to do! Are you serious? What now? You are good for nothing now.”

This made me mad.

I am good enough, and I will achieve anything! Just wait, I’ll prove you wrong!

So, everyone else thinks it’s a good idea. Even my Japanese language teacher, who teaches me since I was 15.

3. I changed my style! (or enhanced it if you will)

Hope it lasts.

Yeah, it took me a while to find my style. I would fancy street fashion. Clothes which looked different from the “casual” ones. So in the last few years I was wearing all black boring outfits good for nothing. Hoping to wake up one day, and find the perfect style.

Not anymore, ladies and gentlemen, not anymore.

I found it, well, not really I just opened my eyes. But change is still change.

4. Old friendships, good friendships!

I cut all cords from my past, hoping to see someone care.

It’s kind of a long story, you know how when you become happy people start having problems with that? Well, that happened.

And I decided to care about me for once. Therefor, I cut all people who destroyed my inner peace.

BUT, this one friend, whom I know, since we were little kids, came forward. And that made me so happy. She is actually a person with whom I spent almost all of my student life since kindergarten. And oh I miss those times. So we went for a coffee, and tomorrow we meet for breakfast. I’m so happy about this.

She is actually this beautiful girl, who is great in everything she does. She has style, is great at athletics, studies super hard school and is very nice. And I don’t get it. How is it even possible.


So that would be all for today. I will get better at this, I hope.

Getting myself out there is really hard.

Is there anything amazing that happened to you recently? Let me know.



Why Is Self Care So Important?


Nowadays,  we have barely time to relax. Our everyday life is so hectic and stressful. We don’t have time for proper meals, our hobbies and most importantly, we don’t have enough time to relax and take care of ourselves. And it’s so easy, that many of us feel like self-care is something “special”.

Self care prevents you from nervous breakdown. We are all guilty. We push ourselves too much, without even realizing our limit. Often reaching it and feeling miserable, exhausted and ready to give up.

Self care clears your mind.  When you get stuck on a complicated problem to deal with, and you have no idea what to do, try taking a break.

Self care motivates. When you feel like you don’t want to fight anymore, make sure to enjoy some me-time, so that you feel like fighting again.

However Self care is not only about relaxing. The most important part of self-care is what we do everyday, what we eat, how much we exercise.

Do you think you practice self care enough? What are the best ways to relax for you? I would love to know.

And remember:

There is no shortcut. It takes time to build a better, stronger version of yourself.

Storytime: How an angel left my side


So today I’ve prepared something heart breaking. So grab a tissue box and let’s get to it.

In summer (18.7.) I lost my best friend. His name was Nero and he was a golden retriever.


Me and my whole family had a special relationship with him. He was an irreplaceable member from the day one. Meaning he was my second brother and my parents took him as their son.

He had a beautiful personality, friendly, playful, cuddly and very loving. He was also very stubborn. There was no way to train him. He had his own head, but he was very clever and could communicate well.

Nero loved socks, so every time he would want to cuddle or play, he stole one of your socks and brought it to you as a payment. He also cared for his stuffed animals dearly (at least for some of them). The truth is he didn’t have to try hard to get your attention. He was very cute and everyone loved his company.


Even though, he was born as a last puppy and was smallest and whitest of all the pups, he was the best dog we could wish for.


At the beginning of summer, when we were running through the forest together, I wouldn’t even imagine that he would be gone so soon. But I knew it would come one day, he wasn’t young anymore. I also asked him to let me know when his time comes…

Nero stopped eating one day, we had hard time to feed him his favorite foods. I knew something was wrong, the moment when he lost interest in sleeping with me in my bed (we would cuddle every night – he refused to fall asleep unless I held his paw).



We finally decided to go to the vet on Saturday. They didn’t know what was wrong with him and the blood wasn’t taken during weekends, so they sent us home with cannula in his leg and infusion, so that he would feel better until Monday.

We spent the whole day taking care of him, comforting him and making sure he was feeling better. He was such a good boy. Even though he was absolutely terrified of the whole infusion thing, he came when called obediently waiting for us to connect him to his treatment. I was so proud. On Sunday morning, when I took a bath and couldn’t keep him company, Nero took out his cannula. You can see how stubborn he was. This was sign for me, I realized that he had enough.


In the end he didn’t hurt himself and I didn’t want him to suffer again, so we left it at that. However, in the night his condition worsened and we didn’t know what to do. He was in so much pain and I suffered just looking at his suffering. We took him to the vet again, and what he found out broke our hearts.

He had a tumor on the liver (therefore cancer), 10x5cm, which is huge to my belief and I can’t even imagine how much he suffered.

We decided that he should go to heaven because he has been fighting this battle for 2 weeks and we couldn’t help him. We knew it was time. And he knew that too, we took him outside for a few moments, just so he would pee and feel like a dog for a while, but he wasn’t interested. He was just standing there, staring at us while we cried, like he wanted to remember our faces.

It hurts until now and I know it will hurt forever. Because loosing someone so close to you is never easy. He fell asleep in my hands calm, and ready.  I do really miss him and love him. That will never change.


Dogs are much stronger than they look. If you can imagine how much our dogs love us. How big their hearts are. That’s how much they fight, how much they want to be with us.

So to every dog owner out there, cherish and love your dog to the bits, because I promise you, they can feel it, and they will fight accordingly.

Have you ever lost your pet? How did you overcome the pain?


10 Romantic Valentine’s Day Ideas

Hey there. As the day of love is just around the corner, I thought it would be fun to put together a short list of romantic, yet simple Valentine ideas to do.

So without further ado, let’s jump right into it.

Cute classical date

It’s totally okay to spend this day classical way, right? This may even make it more romantic. So take your date ice skating. There is nothing more beautiful and sweet than holding hands, laughing and having a great time together. Then you can warm up with a cup of hot chocolate in a nice café.

Luxurious Evening

If budget is not a problem than invest in a 5 course meal. Dress up in your best attire. Have  dinner at a nice restaurant, with wine and candles and enjoy romantic and very special evening.

First date

Recreate your first date. This is a great way for you to show your loved one how much you remember. Kiss on the same spot as your first kiss, walk the same path or eat the same food. If you remember you can even express love in a same words. There is nothing more romantic than bringing up memories of how it all started. You might even fall in love again.

Getting lost

Explore your city! Go on romantic walk and see if you can get lost.

Just be careful, don’t get lost for real. When we did this once, we got seriously lost and couldn’t find a way back for an hour or so. But with a little bit of team work, this ended up being  (most embarrassing and) the funniest adventure we ever had together.

Romantic dinner with a twist

This is actually something we are planning this year, as it contains all of our favorite activities together.

Plan what you want to eat, shop for groceries together and then cook everything. Preferably something totally romantic, for example Pizza in a shape of heart, you can top it with what you love, and if each of you loves the different type of pizza, let your differences  work together, top it in half. Then eat it while watching your favorite movie or playing board games. You can even set the table for two with candles and have perfect romantic dinner.


Cute little something to grow your love

Write a love letter

There is nothing more romantic than your feelings handed to your loved one for them to cherish forever.

Plan together

Nothing brings people together like planning a day, especially as important as Valentine’s day or your anniversary.

Make a photo album

Collect all of your memories together, and have something to come back to when in need.

First anniversary gift for him, he loved it.

Cute note or breakfast in bed

If you live with your loved one, you can leave a beautiful note for them to find, or make breakfast in the bed for them. With just a little effort they will feel special and loved.

In the end, I would like to say that once you love someone make sure to celebrate and cherish them every day.

I hope you enjoyed my post, if you have any more ideas, feel free to share them with me.

And also, make sure to celebrate Valentine’s day with as much love as possible.